Becoming A Father

This week I am continuing on with the things in my life that really make me happy and feel fulfilled as a person. Being a Father
One of the biggest things for me has got to be becoming a father, anyone with working sperm and a place to put it can bring a child into this world, but being a father is a totally different thing.
In June of last year, my wonderful wife gave birth to our beautiful daughter Leila. I’d always been a child-friendly person before, making the time to see my nephew and the other children in my family and friendship circles, has always been important to me. I think it’s partly because I’m a big kid at heart myself that means I enjoy interacting with the little folk, but on a subliminal level, I think it’s because I also know how important it is for kids to have good role models in their lives. So I’ve always tried my best to be that role model guy, as well as being the cool uncle that buys the Becoming a dad lionsbest toys of course!
Like a lot of people, I hoped that there would be children in my future, but I didn’t realise just how happy they can make you and how much everything would change when my own child came along!
I know everyone says it, but until you become a parent for yourself, you just can’t describe the feeling that it brings. I know I’ve created this beautiful little life who relies on me and her mother for absolutely everything. It makes your world stand still and really does put everything perspective.
I’m not going to pretend it hasn’t been difficult, the sleepless nights are like nothing I’ve ever experienced, having to juggle a fuller-than-full-time job and a little one definitely takes its toll and “free time” is now an abstract notion that I think I vaguely remember experiencing a long time ago. I think I’ve mastered the art of sleep-walking and have seriously honed my multi-tasking abilities. That said, I wouldn’t change any of it for a second, having Leila is one of the best things that I have done and I can’t explain how happy having her in my life has made me!

Making A Difference

I think I’ve done enough elaborating on dislikes for a while, so I’m moving away from that which winds me up and onto what makes me happy.  IMake a difference2 thought I may as well start with the whole reason I have this blog and that’s BODO.  One of the ways in which I really have found fulfilment in my life, is through my employment.  With BODO, I’m the founder of a company with a vision and goals to do real good in this world.  Not only is it great because it was my dream and my vision to create a company like BODO, but I really find my work fulfilling and have a sense of achievement because I thoroughly enjoy the feeling of making a positive impact in this world. 

Making A differenceEarly on in my working career I realised that in order for me to be fulfilled at work, for me to be able to get up every day, to get in my car or get on a train and get to work, I knew that I needed the motivation of doing some good to get me there.
For me, working has never been about the paycheque, for as long as I can remember, it’s always been about how I can help.  If I don’t feel like I’m doing some good, or making a difference, there doesn’t seem much point to it all! It really is the incentive and the stimulus I need to get me out of bed and keep me focussed and sharp.  Throughout my career, the majority of my jobs have been about helping people in some form or another, whether it’s been getting people into work, or helping them get on courses, those have been the jobs that I have enjoyed the most and lasted in the longest.  Early on in my career, I had a few jobs that were not like this and quite frankly I really did not enjoy them and did not stay in them for very long.
That’s why starting BODO and working towards getting the company up and running and where I envisage it to be has been so important to me.  I know I am one of the lucky ones, there are a lot of people out there, who have a great idea, but who never get the backing to follow their dreams and watch them realised.  

People Who Judge On Appearance

This week, I’m ranting on about another of my big bones of contention; people who judge on appearance. People who know me (and those of youAppearance judge2 who read this blog) will know that I have a couple of piercings and am quite fond of tattoos too.
One of the things that really winds me up about certain sections of society is that overwhelming need to judge someone on their appearance.
One of the most common judgements made about people who have tattoos and piercings is that they are lowlifes, druggies, alcoholics and just general scum of the earth types. To be quite honest with you, I really can’t get my head around where this idea has come from, I know a hell of a lot of people with tattoos and piercings and they are all perfectly functional members of society; they all have jobs, families and pay their taxes!
When I worked in the employment sector, trying to help those who had left school with little or no qualifications into work or further education, apprenticeships, training courses or fulfilling employment, I came across this view amongst employers a lot. Many were reluctant to take people on, if their appearance was a little outside of the norm and I was constantly battling for my clients who were being judged in this way.
Appearance Judge1Similarly, I also really hate it when people judge someone’s worth by how expensive or well-known the label of clothing they are wearing is. Expensive attire doesn’t make anyone a better human being, a more valuable employee or a good friend!
Thankfully, this out-dated, archaic attitude does appear to be shifting somewhat, I touched on it lightly in my blog about trainers and fashion a few weeks ago, exploring how these days, people are much more accepted for expressing a bit of personality in their appearance and are not constantly forced into shiny black shoes and a suit and tie!
See as far as I’m concerned people don’t fit neatly into boxes, there are many wonderful, epic, super-talented successful people out there with tattoos and piercings, just as their not so wonderful ones. But in my eyes, the same goes for someone who looks “normal” or is dressed in what is deemed as smart attire. I mean, just because someone is wearing a tie or a smart jacket, doesn’t automatically mean they rank as a good or successful person in my book, they could just as easily go home and beat up on their kids or be a bit of rogue, if you catch my drift!
For me, people’s actions, attitude and behaviours determine whether I want them in my life, not what they look like or what they are wearing!!

People With Hidden Agendas

Following on with the theme of likes and dislikes as I have been for the last few weeks, in this entry I will elaborate on my emphatic dislike of Hidden agenda2people with hidden agendas.
I pride myself on being an honest and open person, I am what I am and I am proud of that. I know it’s a cliché, but with me, what you see really is what you get. So I suppose that’s why the more devious and manipulative types out there really get to me, because I would never dream of trying hoodwink my fellow man, nor trying to trick them into doing something to their detriment that I will benefit from.
Throughout my working and personal life I have been unfortunate enough to come across quite a few people whose sole intention is to weasel stuff out of others. Once or twice, I’ve even been unlucky enough to fall for their rubbish and learn my lesson the hard way. I wouldn’t like to say that I am naïve, but I am quite a trusting person and I think it is a good trait to have. I’d hate to totally lose my faith in humanity just because I’ve been unlucky enough to cross paths with a couple of devious, two-faced scallywags, so thankfully I haven’t let them change me, but I have learnt from my mistakes.
Sadly, I’ve seen people close to the verge of losing everything, simply because they put their trust into someone with a hidden agenda. It’s usually only the good ones who suffer, those with good hearts and honest intentions and my theory for why this is, is simple, because the devious ones can smell their own!! From what I’ve seen, shysters seem to have an innate ability to spot similar traits in others, so unfortunately it’s the honest folk who end up on the wrong end of the ponzi scheme.
Dishonesty in general is something that makes my blood boil, I just don’t understand how these people can sleep at night. I think it’s a massive shame that there are so many people like that out there, looking to make a quick buck off another’s good idea, or worse, by bringing about another’s downfall. I reckon Jiminy Cricket has some work to do!!

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