There’s a lot of stuff in the news that can really make you disillusioned about the state of the world and the people that live in it. So much so, that
it almost makes you desensitized to all the pain, suffering and stupid decisions that are going on out there. One story that particularly affected me, was reading about Baby Benjamin as he has been called by the papers, a 6-month old boy, born to a Slovakian mother who gave him up for adoption. For those of you who haven’t heard about his case, his mother was not living in the UK for long enough for Baby Benjamin to have earned a British Passport (current rules state people have to be here 5 years before their children have British Citizenship) and so when his mother said that neither herself nor his Slovakian father could take care of him, the decision was made in the courts that he should be sent to his native Slovakia and placed in the care system there.
As someone who has recently become a father, I find this story harrowing on so many levels. I do not know the mother’s circumstances, or any of her reasons for giving her child up for adoption, as her identity and story have been kept out of the headlines and so I wonder, how desperate must this woman’s situation be that she would hand her son over to authorities, knowing that he will be taken hundreds of miles away. Without knowing her situation, I also struggle to understand how someone could give up their child, but I force myself to reserve judgement.
Then I try to get my head around the legislation that would see this child deported and while I can understand some of the logic and the reasoning behind those rules, I am heartbroken by the outcome. I just can’t help thinking how confused and lost that poor child must be, how much harder it will be for him to ever trace his birth parents should he wish to do so once he gets older. I think about the sense of rejection he will undoubtedly feel, should he ever find out the details of his own distressing story.
One can only hope that the turmoil of his first few months of life and the media attention that has come with it, will help him find adoptive parents that will give him the love, care and nurture that he deserves!